Comments for elise a. miller http://elisemiller.com Sat, 19 May 2012 00:24:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on nagging (sometimes) works by Larissa http://elisemiller.com/2012/05/nagging-sometimes-works/#comment-773 Larissa Sat, 19 May 2012 00:24:45 +0000 http://elisemiller.com/?p=704#comment-773 she is so freaken cute and beautiful. And I am really hoping you'll start a conversation about Bringing Up Bebe, which I haven't read, but... read lots of reviews, and am totally fascinated by the Attachment/French, um, dichotomy. she is so freaken cute and beautiful. And I am really hoping you’ll start a conversation about Bringing Up Bebe, which I haven’t read, but… read lots of reviews, and am totally fascinated by the Attachment/French, um, dichotomy.

]]> Comment on pinhole by eliseamiller http://elisemiller.com/2012/05/pinhole/#comment-759 eliseamiller Thu, 17 May 2012 00:01:17 +0000 http://elisemiller.com/?p=674#comment-759 Yes Kristi, this is my email to the world, to the universe and to you. Thanks for letting it stand in for that email I lamed out on. Now I want a beer. A gluten free Belgian ale. something like that. I love what your mom said, and Boobs McGee. I am adding those nuggets to my arsenal. Let me know what happens about school counseling. that sounds like fun. I've had that fantasy too, but not as loud as the other stuff. Thank you babe! xo Yes Kristi, this is my email to the world, to the universe and to you. Thanks for letting it stand in for that email I lamed out on.

Now I want a beer. A gluten free Belgian ale. something like that.

I love what your mom said, and Boobs McGee. I am adding those nuggets to my arsenal.

Let me know what happens about school counseling. that sounds like fun. I’ve had that fantasy too, but not as loud as the other stuff.

Thank you babe!
xo

]]> Comment on pinhole by kristi http://elisemiller.com/2012/05/pinhole/#comment-758 kristi Wed, 16 May 2012 23:03:02 +0000 http://elisemiller.com/?p=674#comment-758 well if a girl can't get an email she knows she can read it here. ;) the honesty--it's what keeps people drawn in. it's what keeps people reading. what kept running through my mind as i was reading was: i want to interrupt you and just sort of grab your face and look into your eyes and say TRUST YOUR GUT. you don't know everything. there is much to be learned, for sure. but you have a good gut. (an even better gut thanks to paleo, i'd imagine.) your head plays tricks on you, makes you doubt what you know is true for you. remember i told you once about boobs mcgee, my former therapist? she had these little nuggets of wisdom, and one of them was: you know you best. so when someone tells you something, you have to weigh whether YOU think it's true. i guess this could work even with your alter ego, the one who keeps trying to tell you that you need to change your approach, that you aren't good enough, that you don't measure up to all those who are somehow better than you. my mom said to me the other day: "money doesn't buy happiness. OK, well, maybe it does. but it doesn't buy joy." ha. i loved that. i think its simplicity is comforting to me. now i'm rambling. probably the carbalicious beer i had with dinner. oh! today i checked into a certification in school counseling. hard to see how things will pan out through that tiny pinhole. but i agree with your friends here: love that analogy. xoxo well if a girl can’t get an email she knows she can read it here. ;)

the honesty–it’s what keeps people drawn in. it’s what keeps people reading.

what kept running through my mind as i was reading was: i want to interrupt you and just sort of grab your face and look into your eyes and say TRUST YOUR GUT. you don’t know everything. there is much to be learned, for sure. but you have a good gut. (an even better gut thanks to paleo, i’d imagine.) your head plays tricks on you, makes you doubt what you know is true for you.

remember i told you once about boobs mcgee, my former therapist? she had these little nuggets of wisdom, and one of them was: you know you best. so when someone tells you something, you have to weigh whether YOU think it’s true. i guess this could work even with your alter ego, the one who keeps trying to tell you that you need to change your approach, that you aren’t good enough, that you don’t measure up to all those who are somehow better than you.

my mom said to me the other day: “money doesn’t buy happiness. OK, well, maybe it does. but it doesn’t buy joy.” ha. i loved that. i think its simplicity is comforting to me.

now i’m rambling. probably the carbalicious beer i had with dinner.

oh! today i checked into a certification in school counseling. hard to see how things will pan out through that tiny pinhole. but i agree with your friends here: love that analogy.

xoxo

]]> Comment on pinhole by eliseamiller http://elisemiller.com/2012/05/pinhole/#comment-755 eliseamiller Wed, 16 May 2012 02:28:31 +0000 http://elisemiller.com/?p=674#comment-755 Yes on the luck. Spelled A-P-A-T-O-W I suppose. I love that about the 200 bad paintings. I am totally going to use that because I get hugely in my own way between projects as if I'm some sort of creative monogamist. it sucks and I KNOW that you have to keep going and not bank on one book or piece of art or whatever. Cultivating the work ethic over here. Thank you for weighing in, Larissa, it's always great to hear from you. Yes on the luck. Spelled A-P-A-T-O-W I suppose.

I love that about the 200 bad paintings. I am totally going to use that because I get hugely in my own way between projects as if I’m some sort of creative monogamist. it sucks and I KNOW that you have to keep going and not bank on one book or piece of art or whatever. Cultivating the work ethic over here. Thank you for weighing in, Larissa, it’s always great to hear from you.

]]> Comment on pinhole by Larissa http://elisemiller.com/2012/05/pinhole/#comment-754 Larissa Wed, 16 May 2012 02:00:40 +0000 http://elisemiller.com/?p=674#comment-754 Lena Dunham was also really lucky. I'm not saying she's not totally talented and bold, but there are lots of talented bold people out there who don't encounter the stroke of luck that makes them a household name. I love the post, too, even though I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Keep writing. I aspire to do what you have done -- a book published, another in the works, a steady blog. I think you should keep on going and get the next one written. I had a painting teacher in college who said you had to assume you had 200 bad paintings in you, so get them done and out of the way. Not saying that your novel out in limbo is bad, but maybe the next one is the one that matters. Anyway, love your honesty and your voice, and keep going. Lena Dunham was also really lucky. I’m not saying she’s not totally talented and bold, but there are lots of talented bold people out there who don’t encounter the stroke of luck that makes them a household name. I love the post, too, even though I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Keep writing. I aspire to do what you have done — a book published, another in the works, a steady blog. I think you should keep on going and get the next one written. I had a painting teacher in college who said you had to assume you had 200 bad paintings in you, so get them done and out of the way. Not saying that your novel out in limbo is bad, but maybe the next one is the one that matters. Anyway, love your honesty and your voice, and keep going.

]]> Comment on pinhole by eliseamiller http://elisemiller.com/2012/05/pinhole/#comment-753 eliseamiller Tue, 15 May 2012 17:50:02 +0000 http://elisemiller.com/?p=674#comment-753 This comment choked me up. Thank you Kim for taking the time to write such a thoughtful response. It was tremendously helpful to read and will likely be reread. It sounds like you have grown exponentially since embarking on your nursing odyssey and I am happy to learn from your wisdom. It's been great to witness. Inspiring too. Life is fucking hard, and as long as I accept that I can muddle through, knowing it's this way for everyone who's the least bit introspective. I'm going to put my feet up now, be kind to myself, take the pressure off to be anyone else but me, and ponder outside-the-box job ideas. Let me know if you have any. Thanks again Kim! ooxx This comment choked me up. Thank you Kim for taking the time to write such a thoughtful response. It was tremendously helpful to read and will likely be reread. It sounds like you have grown exponentially since embarking on your nursing odyssey and I am happy to learn from your wisdom. It’s been great to witness. Inspiring too. Life is fucking hard, and as long as I accept that I can muddle through, knowing it’s this way for everyone who’s the least bit introspective. I’m going to put my feet up now, be kind to myself, take the pressure off to be anyone else but me, and ponder outside-the-box job ideas. Let me know if you have any. Thanks again Kim! ooxx

]]> Comment on pinhole by Kim http://elisemiller.com/2012/05/pinhole/#comment-752 Kim Tue, 15 May 2012 17:27:59 +0000 http://elisemiller.com/?p=674#comment-752 i like the observation of the pinhole view of the future, it sorta jives with john lennon's quote 'life's what happens while you're busy making plans' which is so me, but thankfully, i realize that, it's sort of a gentle mantra to ease up on myself when i get tunnel vision, which is often. your voice is good enough elise. much more than good enough with respect to your writing. i get that you might feel unsteady and want to seek guidance for how to get your novel published but stay true to yourself and your writing, you are worth it. lena dunham, she has grown up in a world that's pretty much free of doubt. money can't buy happiness but it can make life infinitely easier. but struggles make you stronger in the end, and more relatable, which is literary gold. your work will find the right agent, just be kind to yourself and give yourself time. in the meantime, maybe look into work that would really interest you if you do, indeed, need to find a job come september, something that coincides with your interests (i'm thinking starbucks really doesn't?). my job is fucking stressful as all hell and there are times i dread going to work (and times that i leave crying) but that job (for all the griping i do) is one of the best things that happened to me because it forces me out of my box. i'm not saying become a nurse but is there some sort of career path you could look into that might ultimately help you with your writing? i really love this post even though i don't love the place your in right now, but i admire your honesty. you're following through on what you mentioned a few posts ago, about keeping it real and not going back and editing yourself, deleting things. this is you and there's an audience that will love you for your 'you-ness'. have faith in yourself and when your doubting perhaps look back on the positive things people you respect have told you about your work. i'm trying to do the same with my work, and it really helps with sort of short circuiting the spiral of self doubt. xox i like the observation of the pinhole view of the future, it sorta jives with john lennon’s quote ‘life’s what happens while you’re busy making plans’ which is so me, but thankfully, i realize that, it’s sort of a gentle mantra to ease up on myself when i get tunnel vision, which is often.

your voice is good enough elise. much more than good enough with respect to your writing. i get that you might feel unsteady and want to seek guidance for how to get your novel published but stay true to yourself and your writing, you are worth it. lena dunham, she has grown up in a world that’s pretty much free of doubt. money can’t buy happiness but it can make life infinitely easier. but struggles make you stronger in the end, and more relatable, which is literary gold. your work will find the right agent, just be kind to yourself and give yourself time. in the meantime, maybe look into work that would really interest you if you do, indeed, need to find a job come september, something that coincides with your interests (i’m thinking starbucks really doesn’t?). my job is fucking stressful as all hell and there are times i dread going to work (and times that i leave crying) but that job (for all the griping i do) is one of the best things that happened to me because it forces me out of my box. i’m not saying become a nurse but is there some sort of career path you could look into that might ultimately help you with your writing?

i really love this post even though i don’t love the place your in right now, but i admire your honesty. you’re following through on what you mentioned a few posts ago, about keeping it real and not going back and editing yourself, deleting things. this is you and there’s an audience that will love you for your ‘you-ness’. have faith in yourself and when your doubting perhaps look back on the positive things people you respect have told you about your work. i’m trying to do the same with my work, and it really helps with sort of short circuiting the spiral of self doubt.

xox

]]> Comment on fashion fairy tale by eliseamiller http://elisemiller.com/2012/05/fashion-fairy-tal/#comment-747 eliseamiller Sun, 13 May 2012 19:49:35 +0000 http://elisemiller.com/?p=655#comment-747 Hi! 1. Thank you! It's all about the jiggle and the cottage-cheese texture, not visible in the picture. It's under the flowy layers. 2. Your kids sound horrible! Just kidding! I pray no one mentions the concept of "birthday weeks" to my kids. In fact I'm going to start showing them documentaries about ganges river inhabitants, and that place in Brazil I've heard about. Places where groups of poverty-stricken humans live among fecal waste and garbage under corrugated tin roofs. 3. When I like myself I AM fabulous, yes! Thanks for that! And as are you too! Go girl! 4. Roof! Roof! That was Nyla. She also licked the screen. That means thank you! in dog. 5. Love you too! Thanks for commenting in such an efficient, effective manner! xoxo Hi!
1. Thank you! It’s all about the jiggle and the cottage-cheese texture, not visible in the picture. It’s under the flowy layers.
2. Your kids sound horrible! Just kidding! I pray no one mentions the concept of “birthday weeks” to my kids. In fact I’m going to start showing them documentaries about ganges river inhabitants, and that place in Brazil I’ve heard about. Places where groups of poverty-stricken humans live among fecal waste and garbage under corrugated tin roofs.
3. When I like myself I AM fabulous, yes! Thanks for that! And as are you too! Go girl!
4. Roof! Roof! That was Nyla. She also licked the screen. That means thank you! in dog.
5. Love you too! Thanks for commenting in such an efficient, effective manner!
xoxo

]]> Comment on fashion fairy tale by Kristi http://elisemiller.com/2012/05/fashion-fairy-tal/#comment-746 Kristi Sun, 13 May 2012 17:19:45 +0000 http://elisemiller.com/?p=655#comment-746 Hi! 1: if that's you in the orange top greeting people for the party, what the hell are you dieting for again? 2: my kids think they should have a birthday WEEK. We are raising entitled kids... Shiver. 3: you are a fabulous momma. 4: marley is the cutest dog on the planet, but I can say with truthfulness that nyla is neck and neck with him for winner of this category. 5: I love you! K. Hi!

1: if that’s you in the orange top greeting people for the party, what the hell are you dieting for again?

2: my kids think they should have a birthday WEEK. We are raising entitled kids… Shiver.

3: you are a fabulous momma.

4: marley is the cutest dog on the planet, but I can say with truthfulness that nyla is neck and neck with him for winner of this category.

5: I love you!

K.

]]> Comment on it don’t take much by eliseamiller http://elisemiller.com/2012/04/it-dont-take-much/#comment-718 eliseamiller Wed, 02 May 2012 01:29:21 +0000 http://elisemiller.com/?p=642#comment-718 Thanks Kim! I left out the part about the exertion headaches. Yeow. My core exercises still suck but I blame my uniquely curved spine for that. Yoga was the culprit for the upper body strength I think. All those planks and chaturangas. Let me know how the cat/dog saga goes! Still thinking Corgi? Thanks Kim! I left out the part about the exertion headaches. Yeow. My core exercises still suck but I blame my uniquely curved spine for that. Yoga was the culprit for the upper body strength I think. All those planks and chaturangas.

Let me know how the cat/dog saga goes! Still thinking Corgi?

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